wedding planning

How to change your name after marriage in Australia

How to change your name after marriage in Australia

So, you’re looking to change your last name after getting married, but don’t know where to start.

You are not alone.

In my experience, up to 80% of brides choose to change their last name after getting married and are very confused about how to go about it.

Let’s see if I can help a little..

MORE unique and beautiful wedding readings for your ceremony

MORE unique and beautiful wedding readings for your ceremony

For many of my couples who want to create a heartfelt and inclusive ceremony, they know that asking a friend or family member to do a reading for them is a smart choice.

The reader feels honoured to be asked to be a part of the couple's ceremony, the couple feels like they have elevated the reader to a more visible role and everyone feels validated.

Until the actual reading needs to be chosen.

That's when it all hits Stress-Town.

If you're on the lookout for something sweet, romantic, a little left-of-centre, then I might have some gold for you right here.

Failing this, there is always the post: 5 Wedding Readings That Aren't Too Soppy

Confetti - c'mon, you know you love it..

Confetti - c'mon, you know you love it..

Weddings have changed a lot in the last 40 odd years, but the need to celebrate and mark the occasion with memorable moments and demonstrations of love and hope, hasn't.

While I can acknowledge (albeit, begrudgingly) that it's not 1977, I still challenge anyone not to appreciate the childlike fun of a good 'ol confetti toss. I mean, look at this awesome photo by Kate Pardey - it simply oozes happiness and joy, right? And who doesn't want an extra big helping of that on their wedding day?

Hey, I'm Camille..

Hey, I'm Camille..

I've been meaning to make a celebrant video for my website for ages.

You know, something simple and to the point, just to say hi and let people know a little of what I'm about. And I am well aware that if I were 20 years younger, I'd be snapchatting my way through most weekends.

But when I tried to take a handful of short videos for Bridechilla Club last week at Luke Simon's studio (thank you again, Luke), I discovered that it wouldn't be the walk in the park I hoped it would be.

But then, I had a revelation.

Do we have to include religious content in our wedding ceremony?

Do we have to include religious content in our wedding ceremony?

In Australia, there are three different ways to get married. The Marriage Act 1961 allows for marriages to be solemnised by:

1. Ministers of religion of recognised denominations,
2. State and Territory Officers (most commonly at a State or Territory office of Births, Deaths and Marriages) and
3. Commonwealth-registered marriage celebrants. This category contains both civil (non-religious) celebrants (like me!and ministers of religion who are not aligned with a recognised denomination.

What to look for in a (great) celebrant

What to look for in a (great) celebrant

Such a cute photo from Mink Studio of little Grace at Lien and Andrew's wedding ceremony, yes? She read A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton and it was a precious moment for their guests.

What I see in this shot, is how far I have come in 8 years. I see a celebrant who is completely immersed in the moment, striving to help a guest speaker (however tiny) feel confident and supported because it is not about me. Your wedding ceremony has (almost) nothing to do with what I think, what I like or how I've won a couple of awesome awards (and I'm very grateful for them, but still what does it mean for you?)

I say this to my couples ALL THE TIME; I can guarantee that not one of your guests will attend your wedding ceremony just because I am conducting it. To be frank, they don't give a fuck who is solemnising your marriage as long as YOU (and your fiancé) are happy. 

Okay, so the next step is, how do you make sure that you are happy with your celebrant on the big day?

Wedding Ceremony Wine Box Ritual (what it is and how to do it)

Wedding Ceremony Wine Box Ritual (what it is and how to do it)

Most of my couples are not dove/butterfly/ferret-releasing kind of people.

Many are a bit uncomfortable being in the limelight on their wedding day and don't want over-the-top, grand gestures or anything said that's too soppy. That's when I tell them about the wine box ritual. I like to think of it as a time capsule with interest.

Let me explain..

What does a celebrant do?

What does a celebrant do?

It's been a pretty busy week for me, which I'm guessing is par for the course for most celebrants in peak season. When family and friends ask me what I've been up to, I invariably answer 'just busy with work' which is often met with a raised eyebrow and some exasperation. The look on their faces says 'are you really THAT busy, when your job is just to stand at a ceremony and talk for 20 minutes?'

It used to make me angry when people didn't get what I do, but I have learned over the years that many people are simply not aware of what goes on behind the scenes, how much preparation goes into a ceremony and the contingencies that a good celebrant needs to account for.

So in the interests of being open and trying to educate rather than explode, here's a snapshot of what I get up to in an average week.

5 tips for a successful surprise wedding

5 tips for a successful surprise wedding

Fun, funny and oh so memorable; I think that these photos from Be Frankie Photography say it all..

And although Lucas and Claire's family and friends were supportive and got into the spirit of things when the big reveal was made, there was a lot of groundwork that went on behind the scenes to make it all look easy and effortless on the day.

Here are a few key points that you need to address and/or consider to ensure that your surprise wedding is just as successful and doesn't fall flat.

4 different ways to pick your perfect wedding colours

4 different ways to pick your perfect wedding colours

One of my brides asked me recently; Where do I start with my wedding colours? There is so much information out there and everyone has their own take about which shades should be used for a 'seasonal' colour scheme and which Pantone colour of the year is best for you and the alignment of your astrological chart.